It’s normal to feel rejected after a divorce or to feel as if you’re the only one who caused the end of the relationship – but really, it takes two people to end a marriage. One works harder than the other sometimes, but it takes two. Don’t allow that self-blame feeling convince you that since this relationship didn’t work out that you are not worthy of love – because you are.
However, part of the healing process of divorce is to understand that the way you feel about yourself reflects on the way you interact with others around you. As you learn to accept what happened and how to love yourself again, the feelings of rejection will begin to diminish. But if you’re struggling, here are some tips to help heal from that feeling of rejection:
- Accept that it’s normal for the end of your marriage to take an emotional toll on you. It’s important to remember that all marriages will eventually end – either in breakup or death – and you shouldn’t think that you failed. You gave it all you had, but the relationship had run its course.
- Accept that feeling rejected is an expected part of the ending of a marriage. Take your healing time as a way to reflect on the marriage and see what it taught you about yourself, about what you need and expect from a relationship.
- Form supportive relationships with people around you. Get involved in new activities or follow dreams you felt you couldn’t pursue while with your partner.
Don’t let your divorce define your life; accept that it happened, allow yourself to heal, and continue living your life…you only get one.