They say “the key to a happy life is a happy wife” and as cliché as it sounds, there’s some truth in that. How do you expect to live a happy life if one half of your partnership isn’t happy? Keeping both you and your partner happy isn’t one simple thing – you have to work at it every day, but if you commit to it there’s no reason you can’t have it. Take a look at these steps we’ve laid out for you:
- Put your relationship first. Get used to saying “us” and “we” instead of “I” and “me”. It’s important that you and your partner form a separate union, together. Especially with newlyweds, it’s common for each spouse to still have their loyalties tied to parents and siblings and look to them for comfort but shouldn’t your lifetime partner be the one you seek for that feeling of security? Your marriage should be your anchor, and if it’s not then you need to do what it takes to make it that.
- Have a daily check-in. Marriage experts recommend having regular team meetings with your partner. Making sure that you’re up to date on what’s going on in each other’s lives is important; it helps you both stay on the same page as well as letting the other know you care about each other. When you have that big presentation at work coming up and your partner wishes you good luck in the morning without your reminder, we promise it’ll put a big smile on your face.
- Make decisions based on your relationship. When faced with a decision, such as a job offer that would force a relocation or something smaller like having to work late nights or making plans with friends on your usual date night, think about how your partner will feel if you don’t include them in on the decision. Think about how you would feel if the situation were flipped. If you are being faced with a decision that could offset the balance in your relationship, talk to your partner about it before coming up with your answer.
- Cheer each other on. Be your partner’s biggest supporter – cheer them on when they need it, and even when they don’t. Remember that healthy marriages circle around having each other’s best interests at heart. Your partner needs your encouragement in everything they do. Look for the good in them, develop a sense of humor and crack jokes together, and give them honest, specific praise and tell them what you appreciate about them.
Contact us at the Mediation & Family Counseling Group at 1-888-281-2725 if you think your marriage is in trouble.