Are you frustrated by a relationship or marriage that’s no longer working for you AND you’re not sure what (if anything) to do about it?Are you beginning to wonder whether this relationship is “worth it” any more?
Are you trying to figure out whether your relationship is just going through a rough patch or if it’s really over?
Have you or your partner emotionally or physically abandoned the relationship and you want to know whether you should give it one more try?
Do you feel like there is still love between the two of you but because of everything that’s happened, you’re wondering whether that is enough to keep you together?
If you said “yes” to any part of the questions above then welcome to the most important question you will ever ask yourself…
“Should I stay married or divorce?”Schedule Your Free Breakthrough Session to find out how to get back to happy
Your relationship could be the biggest factor that determines your personal happiness.
Getting yourself to a better place is important. Whether that means staying in the marriage or divorcing. Staying in a bad marriage without trying to make things better can hurt the family and children emotionally, and eventually an lead to phyical ailments. Additionally, your children may see your relationship as the norm and not experience a good relationship, and keeping the cycle going.
We Have This Confession To Make About Relationships…
It is possible to have a great relationship, but it takes doing work to change habits and behaviors. Doing the work will help the two of you speak the same language, because right now you may not be speaking to each other in a way that your spouse can hear you or maybe your spouse is not hearing you and understanding you in a wy that you need to be undertood.Making the decision about whether to stay or go can be confusing, stressful and difficult.
If you’re in a relationship that isn’t working and you’re not sure what to do, we’d like you to know that there is hope for a great relationship, no matter how desperate your situation appears right now.
One of the biggest things you can do to help yourself right now is NOT to beat yourself up about what’s going on.
Please tell yourself that you’re doing the best you can and that everything is going to be fine.
There is something, however, we must tell you that almost no one ever figures out before it costs them a lot of time, energy, pain and frustration …
Why Making “No Decision” About Your Relationship
is Almost Always The Wrong Decision…
If you’re like a lot of people (and couples), you might think that if you put off the decision of whether you want to stay in or leave your relationship, the problems you are having will somehow magically heal themselves or disappear.
If you don’t invest some quality time now in taking an honest and truthful look at the state of your relationship, you could stay stuck in this place of indecision for a very long time.Indecision only yields more stress to your life. We know fear of making the wrong decision is agonizing, but no decision is just as agonizing.
We understand and have compassion for those of you who are stuck in “limbo” about this decision and may feel this is the safest place to be.
Many people spend precious time remaining safe but lonely, when they could be experiencing an incredible relationship filled with love, passion and joy, either in their current relationship or one that is more of what they truly desire.
But it’s not entirely your fault…
Many of us remain in the "safe zone" because very often, as we’re growing up, we’re taught to hold back, not tell people how we really feel or what’s important to us. We’re taught to NOT “rock the boat’ and to not cause trouble. Is that "safe zone" serving you?
We’re also not encouraged to explore our deep emotions, which is why we typically go into reactive mode. Taking a pause means listening to your heart and your true feelings. Instead we act out of fear, and go to safe.
To get started in making this decision, we encourage you to take an honest look at your situation and measure how much pain you’ve been feeling about this relationship. Where is the pain? in your heart? in your stomach, in your head? Find this and feel it, don't be afraid of it, don't avoid it.
If having a great relationship is important to you, you need to decide that you’re not willing to live without the love, passion, intimacy, tenderness, connection and yes, even sex any longer. Nor will you live with this pain in your body, which by the way will eventually become an illness, Dis-ease.
You have to take the first step to create the kind of relationship and love you want in your life. Or eliminate the pain you are in with your current relationship.
Bottom line it you are unhappy, chances are your partner is too.
Ease the pain for the both of you.
Contact us at the Mediation and Family Counseling Group at 1-888-281-2725. Schedule a call with Dana and Don when you can to hep you determine which direction to go.