People are ready for weddings not marriages and this can be the reason there are so many divorces.
PRE-MARITAL counseling can prepare you for a lifetime, beyond the wedding day.
Many couples don't think they need pre-marital, and what the churches offer is not enough. Your lives and interests are going to change over time and it's best to prepare for these changes now why you and your partner are in love and in a good place. Some couples resist counseling or consulting because they are afraid of what they may find out about their partner or reveal to their partner that can scare away the future together. NO, not to worry about this, if you are both in love and feel the love for one another in this blissful stage then getting to know who you are really marrying is now the safest time to share. Your partner wants to MARRY YOU, not a figment of you. And if this revelation proves too much for the fiance', then it's best to find out now.
My mother always says, girls want to be proposed to, regardless of whether it's a healthy relationship for longevity or not. She's right, sadly, but today's woman is more independent and no longer needs the identity of someone asking for their hand in marriage. Women today hold their own. So isn't it wise to seek counseling and make sure that it's not just a WEDDING day your after but the marriage to someone who honors you, cherishes your thoughts and feelings, knows who you are inside and out and is willing to take what flaws or weirdness you exhibit and embrace it. If you don't take the time to get to know each other in a truly intimate way now, while love is understanding, it will come out later, when love is not so tolerant.
At the Mediation and Family Counseling/ Cooperative Counseling we are trained and care about getting to the matter and building strong relationships. BONUS: One of our counselors can even officiate your marriage right here in the office.